ANGER CONTROL MADE EASY – ISRAEL (IZZY) C. KALMAN
The Root of People’s Problems: How to Make it Disappear
The single most destructive element in life is anger. Anger destroys relationships between husbands and wives, parents and children, brothers and sisters, kids in school, and adults in the workplace. Prolonged anger literally poisons our bodies. It leads to depression and violence. Virtually everyone needing psychological or psychiatric help is intensely angry with one or more people in their lives. Prisons are full of individuals who could not control their anger. Even most mental health professionals have relationships marred by anger.
Despite the crucial importance of anger, few mental health professionals deal with it directly. We tend to think of anger as a byproduct of problems. We believe that if we help our clients resolve their problems, the anger will disappear. Unfortunately, this approach often results in prolonged therapy with uncertain results. Even most structured anger control programs can take a long time and have poor results. This recording shows you that the truth is the other way around: anger is the major cause of people’s problems, and controlling it causes problems to disappear. Izzy Kalman’s Anger Control Made Easy provides an evidence-based, yet uniquely entertaining approach that can dramatically increase your ability to help not only your clients with anger management, but yourself in the process.
This recording opens your eyes to simple, yet profound ideas and approaches, such as The Golden Rule, Freedom of Speech, and even humor. Life as you know it may never be the same again.
- Discuss why anger is an essential survival mechanism in nature, but counterproductive in civilization and relate this information to potential clinical interventions
- For the purposes of client psychoeducation, demonstrate to clients how their anger is reinforcing the problems they are trying to extinguish
- Explain why angry people are considered to be abusers, but actually feel like victims, and how this informs the clinician’s choice of treatment interventions
- Identify the psychological mechanisms underlying the principles of the Golden Rule and Freedom of Speech
- Demonstrate a role-playing game that can improve client engagement and treatment outcomes
- Delineate a set of simple rules for defusing hostility and establishing harmony, and how these rules can be used in clinical practice
OVERVIEW OF ANGER
- Why we are biologically programmed to get angry
- Life in nature vs. life in civilization
- Why anger causes problems in civilization
- Disadvantages of some of the common approaches to anger control
THE REPLACEMENT OF PSYCHOLOGY WITH LAW IN CURRENT MENTAL HEALTH
- How current legal trends are unwittingly undermining mental health
- The difference between law and psychology
- A scientific explanation of the Golden Rule
- Wisdom about anger through the ages
THE “GOLDEN RULE GAME” AS A THERAPEUTIC TOOL
- Demonstration of Izzy Kalman’s therapeutic technique with an audience volunteer
- The life lessons clients learn from the game
- When to use the game, and when not to
SEVEN SIMPLE RULES FOR TURNING ENEMIES INTO FRIENDS
- Explanation of the rules
- Demonstration of use of rules with the volunteer
MORE TOOLS FOR DEFUSING ANGER AND CONFLICT
- The importance of forgiving and apologizing
- How to respond to unreasonable accusations and rumors
- How to say “No” effectively
- Getting rid of resentment
- Applying the wisdom of “Misery loves company
FREEDOM OF SPEECH AS A PSYCHOLOGICAL PRINCIPLE
- Why Freedom of Speech is the solution to most anger and aggression
- The application of Freedom of Speech to cursing and to hate speech
HUMOR, THE ANTIDOTE TO ANGER
- The mysterious and unpleasant truth about humor that we rarely learn in psychology
- Three rules for using humor without offending people
- How to learn to laugh at yourself
- Why “Mother Nature” programmed us to ridicule people
DEMONSTRATIONS OF HOW TO USE THIS APPROACH TO SOLVE COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
